D/s is the abbreviation for Dominance and submission. As defined by Websters Dictionary, Dominance is "the fact or state of being dominant," okay that told us a lot. Dominant is listed as "commanding, controlling, or prevailing over all others." Submission is described as "the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant; an act of submitting to the authority or control of another" and submissive is simply defined as "submitting to others." I can see if a person did not explore those definitions in greater detail that they may hold the wrong idea of what D/s is truly about.
A Dominant is not "commanding, controlling, or prevailing over all others." A Dominant only controls submissives who freely give said Dominant the permission to do so. Anyone who attempts to dominate people without their consent is an abuser, not a Dominant. A submissive on the other hand is humble to that Dominant who has won his or her trust. The submissive is humbled before the power s/he feels when in the presence of the Dominant and freely hands over control of various parts of his or her being. However, before that power is given or taken the rules for the relationship are set and the limits are defined. D/s is a mutual relationship. It is not 'one gives power, one takes it,' both give and both receive. It is a never ending cycle of empowerment fed from one to the other and back again. When the chemistry is right between the persons involved it can be a very fulfilling relationship.
The D/s lifestyle is very diverse, as are the participants. D/s cannot be defined as each persons D/s is different. In order to assure a successful relationship the parties involved must have the same interests and goals, as well as a shared definition of what they believe D/s to be. Someone with a strictly service oriented desire would not fair well with a person who enjoys exploring the world of SM (Sadomasochism), and vice-versa. Before you can find the Dominant of your dreams you must first decide what you desire in a D/s relationship, what type of submissive you desire to be, what areas of submission you wish to explore, and what your limits are. Not sure how to answer those questions? Within the Members Area you will find the tools needed to begin to answer those questions and many more.
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